It’s 2am, and I’m not quite sure why I’m on here writing instead of sleeping; but as soon as I was getting myself ready for bed, I found myself extremely tired, yet wide awake. I just have too many things on my mind, don’t we all. I often wonder, just how much can we take on, how many roles can we take on before we explode into a million tiny pieces of stress?
I would tell you to get out a sheet of paper, and begin to write down all your stressful things, but honestly I feel like that would probably cause us all a mental break down. The thing is, I am certain I’m feeling stressed but I’m not exactly sure why, I’m don’t know what’s causing my brain to be up this late…but something certainly is bothering me. Perhaps it’s my Summer finals, or something deeper than that. Who knows. But I, like probably most of you, have come to realize that stress will always be there, whether it’s due to our romantic relationships, our doubt in religion, our GPA’s, our future, whatever, it’s going to be there. In fact if it is not there, society will create stress for you. You’re not thin enough, you’re not beautiful enough, you’re not smart enough, or our weather is changing, animals are dying, people are dying, Gaza is dying (Allah help them). Stress is there, we create stress, it’s as if we need stress; and it ranges between minimal to extreme…
Wouldn’t it just be nice if we could stop time when we are feeling too overwhelmed?
I like to pretend I can by closing my eyes, even for a minute, just to breath in between all the chaos.
I wish I could offer you all a piece of advice on stress but to be honest, I need some advice too. Recently I’ve been using one piece of advice my fathers Iraq war veteran (from the Iraqi side) friend told us:
If there’s a problem, and there’s a solution…then don’t worry about it.
If there’s a problem, and there is no solution…then don’t worry about it.
Read it twice, I promise it makes sense. I feel like so often do we have stress, and continue to add more stress to our stress by worrying about more little things we really should not be worried about, for example, preparing a mid-term paper and as soon as you turn it in, realizing you forgot a comma, and now you’re stressed because if the comma…
In other words we add stress that we don’t really need to begin with. So here’s the part where I try to help you fellow stressed friends. Yes, I lied, I will actually suggest you write down a list of the things you’re mostly stressed about, and if there is a solution, write it down, if there isn’t, write it down.
I’m not saying it will help you de-stress, but it will put your thoughts into perspective and maybe even help you understand why you’re stressed about that certain stressful thing and possibly even lead to some personal realizations. It’s not supposed to look like a to do list, it’s supposed to look like your real stressful problems, and your feelings towards them and how you can find a solution for them and learn more about yourself.
The last piece of advice that I can offer is be good to yourself, do not stress when you do not have to and hopefully this list will help you realize how many silly things there are that we stress about and really shouldn’t. Treat yourself good, if you wish you could enjoy a couple hours of relaxation in the morning, to comfortably enjoy your coffee then do it, wake up early and do it, for yourself. You deserve it.
Goodluck friends, feel free to reply to this, or to send me your lists, I’ll gladly share mine upon requests, any questions feel free to message me through here, or my e-mail: firstname.lastname@example.org
Breath in. You can do this.
P.S I am quite late in changing up the banner for this week’s Girl’s Doin’ Art, and I am also late on some posts I’ve been working on for the Fat Diaries, I promise I’ll be back after finals. Thank you to the few who have shown support for my brand new little blog, it means a lot!